When To Discuss Your Addiction Situation
The battle against addiction is hard, long and very stressful. You may never know when the battle is won. Knowing when you should tell someone that you are sober and how to say those words to that person can be difficult. Many people who were once drug or alcohol abusers see recovery as a part of their personality and openly tell the people that they regularly associate with that they are a recovering addict. Other people are happy to talk about their time in rehab, while some will minimize their refusal of alcohol, by simply saying that they do not like it. Many feel perfectly comfortable sharing this part of their lives, while others prefer only to tell a select few. Regardless of how many communicate how they are dealing with their addiction, it is still hard to make the title switch from addict to sober and relapse free. No matter who you decide to tell and when, here are some tips for making sure you do it the right way.
Talking about sobriety and addiction in most work environments is still relatively taboo. It can make many fellow employees and even your employer uncomfortable. In this arena, your employers will usually only care about your current performance in the workplace and really do not want to know what you do or do not do on your personal time. Sharing your story of recovery may be fine in some very narrow set of situations, but by and large, it is better to keep your sobriety private.
When you decide to tell your friends, it is an extremely personal decision and it may vary from person to person. Only tell people that you know will take you seriously and that will support you in your sobriety, keeping in mind that there are likely to be follow up questions about the recovery process. Recovery is often considered to be an intimate detail, though you may be perfectly happy to tell anyone who enquires about why you do not drink or do not take part in some other behavior. Be careful for the friends who you didn’t tell, but you are often hanging out in settings where relapse is possible. It is more likely for you to relapse when faced with situations where you are attempting to uphold a reputation with peers.
Telling someone you are dating that you are in recovery can be the most stressful of all these situations. You might want to wait until you know the person well enough that you can predict their reaction and any questions they might have before you even tell them. You definitely do not have to bring it up on the first date, or even the third date, but if you are going to continue seeing that person and let them into your life, you are probably going to want to share your sobriety with them, so you two can forge ahead with this part of your past in mind. Take your time and talk to him/her in a setting where you both are able to speak clearly and privately.